Zen Musings – Inner Observing
I am me and you are you.
Recently, while practising the Inner Smile during one of my Qi Gong sessions – many thanks to Eva Rehle and Andreas W. Friedrich, who introduced me to their way of practice through their video course and thus helped me to activate mine – an unpleasant memory came up. It was a situation where a person unexpectedly approached me in a very unfriendly way. I remembered how bad I felt at that time. Until now, when I remembered that situation, I always felt bad right back. But this time it was different. I could hold my inner smile towards myself, the loving, observing stance towards myself, while at the same time remembering the unpleasant situation. The situation was fraught with strong judgements – mainly those that were formally thrown at me by the other person involved.
From the loving, observing stance of the Inner Smile, I was now able to recognise that although this situation brought with it unpleasant feelings, I do not need to identify with these feelings at all. You could also say that I had been given a pair of shoes to wear, or not to wear. This time I decided not to wear the pair of shoes, but rather to keep my own shoes on.
Perhaps we feel this way more often than we think – that we are confronted with feelings that are not necessarily our own and that we do not necessarily need to identify with them, even if our counterpart may expect us to do so.
As a highly sensitive person and empath, I can say that I personally feel this way quite often. It is a process to learn how to recognise which feelings are yours and which are not. Surely this looks different for each person, because after all, people are very different.
The regular practice of adopting a loving-observant stance also towards oneself helps me to distinguish this even better. Moreover, this often happens with astounding ease. In fact, not everything always has to be dramatic to have great significance. I find that very reassuring – in the truest sense of the word.
When was the last time you smiled to yourself? How about now?
Are you ready to shine a bright light of awareness on the path of beingness, today?
Much Love, Steffi