A Matter of Courtesy
Lately I have been dealing with a certain phenomenon that I encounter time and again. I have tried to understand it and to find a stance towards it.
Sometimes, one meets people who are so busy with their own ideas about life that they do not see what is happening around them. This also leads to them not perceiving you as the person you are, but trying to adapt the encounter to the template that fits their idea of life.
Now, we all have our filters through which we perceive life. So we probably never see the world exactly as it really is. But in order to meet each other, we must at least recognise that these different filters and perspectives exist. We have to find common denominators. One can start with the lowest common denominator and in the best case we even broaden our horizons.
To meet each other at eye level and connect with the world around us, we need reality checks. With this we can assess whether our imagination actually corresponds to what we are currently experiencing.
Yet some people do not look closely here and simply ignore what they do not like, what frightens them or what they do not know. I suppose to some extent this happens to all of us sometimes. But if this becomes an attitude to life, a stance towards life, then I personally have little interest in exposing myself to it.
Personally, I experience it as very discourteous if one does not at least try to see and understand the person opposite. Perhaps we do not always succeed in this. But with good communication and willingness on both sides, we can usually learn to do it.
Now, when people approach me and want to get to know me, I would like them to take the time and make the effort to really look. For that matter, they can expect the same from me. It probably also helps, here, to spend time and effort to get to know oneself. It takes one to know one, after all.
I see it like this:
Nobody is on this Earth to please other people or even to entertain them – unless one chooses to do so, of course. Every person has the right to simply be there, just as they are, and also a right to be seen exactly as they are. We do not have to like what we see of each other. After all, in the best case scenario, we can choose who we want to spend our time with.
But if I choose to spend time with someone and want that person to spend time with me, courtesy and decency demand that one looks and gives the other person, as well as oneself, space to be who they are. For me, this also includes being aware of this and accepting it as reality.
What is important to you in your encounters with others? How do you encounter life?
Are you ready to shine a bright light of awareness on the path of beingnes, today?
Much Love, Steffi